In life things can go awry, your planned out path may just not work out as you expected, and then you are faced with choices. What do you do? Run, Fight, Give up, Try again?
If you hadn’t thought about it yet, things don’t just happen to you, you have choices. Everytime there is an unexpected twist in the vines of life’s journey it’s an opportunity to decide what you will do: whether you will respond or react.
Responding clearly involves a much deeper process than reacting, anything you do out of force of habit, without really being in the moment can be considered reacting. (Like when you scream loudly when a hammer falls on your toe, regardless of the setting.). Now imagine you are in court, and a hammer falls on your toe, you do have a choice, and it demands 
self-discipline. If you are deeply interested in keeping the order, you will use the moment to choose a more fitting way to deal with the pain rippling through your body. That is responding.
There are 5 types of responses that are not healthy for your development, because results don’t ever change if you do the following 5 things.
Do these things and you will be caging yourself and limiting your growth!
- #1 Complain about it: Complaining is related to the “Victimhood” mentality, you think you are the victim, but you really have inner strength, start discovering what you can do. And more importantly start doing it, one step at a time.
- #2 Acuse others: Shifting the blame on others is the same as giving up your power, more than that it keeps you focusing on what others should be doing, now what you can do for yourself. Acusing is Complaining’s third cousin.
- #3 Give up: White flags are great when there is war, but using it in your own life is a sad way to go into slow life-long death.
- #4 Ignore the problem: Telling yourself there is no problem only makes you blind to the solutions, opportunities and basically makes you powerless. Learn by having a critical eye, asking how can I do this better is always a great way to grow as a person!
- #5 Neglect your responsibility: Sometimes you are inherently to blame for the problem, don’t cover it with self-exculpatory (excuses). You are in control of your life, you have free-will, If you didn;t do something about it, just man up already and start climbing another branch that may just fit you better.
- #6 Get resentful or vengeful: You preceive it’s someone else’s fault, and now you want them to pay, so you put all your energy into getting even, harming them back. Problem is, now they are in control and their lives, choices and works twist you into any direction but that of growth.